Cynth Icorn AKA SUPERMASOCHIST GIRL is here to help you endure great levels of pain with some handy hints and tips!
This guide is designed for masochists who want to push themselves, but can be applied to other situations.
1.Pain is a mindset
Once you understand and accept that pain is just part of the spectrum of feeling you can overcome it. Pain is your body telling you that something is wrong, if you know what that is and it is controlled and safe, you no longer need to fear pain. Pain can be positive and creative, it can lead to different mindsets and take you to many places.
2.Control the situation If you or your play partner have control of the situation in a way in which you are comfortable with you will be able to relax and concentrate on pushing through challenging levels of pain. Whether you are more comfortable fully restrained or not is up to you, this also includes considering to use blindfolds or not.
3.Pick your Partner When pushing boundaries it is very important to work with someone you know and trust, this is not about reputation this is about first hand knowledge. Your partner must know you well and understand when you need a break and what way of pushing will be best for you. It is also important that your partner can spot if you are feeling sick or dizzy. This must be something you both want to do.
4.Set a goal
If you have a goal you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, you know when to stop and you can know what you have achieved. Each person will have different goals whether 6 strikes of the cane is where you need to start or whether your pushing on to 21 strikes from 21 different implements (my take on birthday beats) is where you’re at. Either way, take into account your previous play and set goal which asses that. Do not set goals too high as you will be tempted to push yourself too far, its easy to go up in small steps than leaps, don’t fall of the ladder!
5. Feed off wisdom
During this kind of scene it can be useful for the Dominant partner to ‘coach’ the submissive through these acts. Useful tid bits include
“If you loose control you’ll never get it back.”
“Breathe deeply and slowly.”
“You can cry now.”
“You’re more than half way through, you can do this, I won’t be easy on you, this will be hard but you can do this.”
“You will be so proud when this is over”
Have water, chocolate, fruit or some form of fast acting sustenance near by. Know signs of weakness, panic or sickness and how to recover from these. Know how to spot them and firmly take control.
Breathing techniques, controlled gaze or stance can help you endure high levels of pain as they give you something else to focus on. Equally, quickly establishing subspace through control or humiliation can be of use to some players.
8.Take your time
Be prepared to need to rest in a controlled manner which keep the headspace going, or slow down, also leave longer than usual for after care and coming down.
Afterwords spend a lot of time telling your partner how proud you are of them and how well they did. Soft cuddles and tenderness are key be prepared for tears and anything bad to come to the surface. NB This form of play is very exhausting and can cause bad sub/dom drop.
This is not a definitive article, please consider any tip as to whether it is relevant to you. Be careful when you play and restrict this kind of play to one you know very well. It requires a lot of prior knowledge, trust and experience.